Stop getting caught up on how you think things are supposed to look.
Feelings, love, careers, connections, possibilities: When you give up the form in which you think these things must appear, you’re instead open to the miracle of them showing up all around you all the time, in ways that are a lot more joyful and unexpected than you could have ever planned.
Part of our problem is that we feel we have to have things lined up in a definitive way before we feel like we can take the leap.
So before you can ask the girl out on a date you have to have your shit together. Before you start auditioning you need to redo your headshots, and before you move to a bigger city, you have to make sure you have money in the bank account.
These postponements keep us stuck in the idea of the fantasy of how it’s going to look once we get there.
The irony is that you’ll never get there if you stay stuck on the idea.
There’s nothing wrong with being unsettled or doubtful, or not entirely together while we’re out in the world. There’s nothing wrong with falling down as we attempt to walk. That’s how we learn.
You’re never going to have it all together. Ever. So if you keep putting your life on hold for greater perfection before you can do other things, you’ll find out you’ve postponed half your life.
If you let life show you how to participate, it will, but it requires us to get out of our heads that create so many distractions and reasons why we can’t, that we miss it entirely.
We’re all seeking a shared experience. Everyone. Not just some of us, all of us.
But we sometimes aren’t aware of this universal connection because we think we’re the only ones who desire it. So we let these opportunities pass when they come to us in the most surprising ways.
Being open to connection just means being open.
It doesn’t mean you have to fast forward to an end result that may require you to go on a date or commit to someone, or get married, or say yes to a job and move to L.A. tomorrow. It just means letting the meaning of an experience unfold for you instead of you constantly trying to figure it out first before you decide to jump in.
Just jump in. Once you do, you’ll see you’re not going to drown.
Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, director, producer, and artistic director of Anthony Meindl's Actor Workshop (AMAW) with studios in Los Angeles, New York, London, and Vancouver. It was honored by Backstage three years in a row and named the Best Acting Studio in Los Angeles (Best Scene Study and Best Cold Read).
Meindl's first feature film, “Birds of a Feather,” won the Spirit of the Festival Award at the 2012 Honolulu Rainbow Film Festival, and he won Best Director at the Downtown Film Festival Los Angeles. It releases on iTunes and DVD in March of 2014. He is a regular contributor to The Daily Love, Backstage, and various spirituality podcasts. He has been featured in ABC News, Daily Variety, LA Weekly, The Hollywood Reporter, and CW KTLA. He has been a guest speaker at the GATE 2013 Story Conference, founded by Jim Carrey and Eckhart Tolle, and David Lynch's Masters in Film Program (Maharishi University of Management).
He is also the author of the best-selling creativity book, At Left Brain Turn Right, which helps artists of all kinds unleash their creative genius within. Check out Meindl's free smartphone app on iTunes. Follow Meindl on Twitter @AnthonyMeindl.