Start looking at your life in context. You might get some valuable insight: You’re doing just fine!
Actually you’re doing better than fine.
(I’m taking a page from Helena Bonham Carter, who now makes her husband, director Tim Burton, compliment her when they’re working together.)
So you’re doing…Fantastic!
When we don’t keep things in perspective and only on what isn’t working, we become defeated by rejections and challenges and lose perspective. Contextually, we’ve probably made great progress in order to get to where we now stand.
Little victories change our contextual landscape.
With context, you see that life will still present us with challenges, but perhaps the problems themselves (and how you face them) are of a different quality.
Sure it sucks when you get dumped by an agent, but up until now, maybe you’d spent the last three years too frightened to even look for new representation. So getting dropped is progress! This is context!
Sure it blows when you come really close to booking a big job and someone else gets it. But maybe a year ago, you weren’t getting seen for any jobs! So rejection is progress! This is context!
Having context is a more accurate (and exciting) way to look at your own growth and development. We must have obstacles to overcome in order to achieve success.
Without overcoming challenges, success would have no meaning.
So the next time something doesn’t go the way you had hoped, don't get on the "Brain Drain Train." Don’t find a seat on that "Doom & Gloom Bus." Next stop, Depression City!
Throw yourself a gigantic context party instead. You’re doing just fine . . . errrr . . . Fantastic!
Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, director, producer, and Artistic Director of Anthony Meindl's Actor Workshop (AMAW) in Los Angeles, where it was voted the Best Acting Studio in Los Angeles by Backstage in 2011 and 2012 (Best Scene Study and Best Cold Read). AMAW is also located in New York and Australia.
Meindl's first feature film, “Birds of a Feather,” won the Spirit of the Festival Award at the 2012 Honolulu Rainbow Film Festival, and he won Best Director at the Downtown Film Festival Los Angeles. He is a regular contributor to The Daily Love, Backstage, and various spirituality podcasts. He has been featured in ABC News, Daily Variety, LA Weekly, The Hollywood Reporter and the CW KTLA. He is also the author of the new best-selling book, “At Left Brain Turn Right,” which helps artists of all kinds unleash their creative genius within. Check out Meindl's free smartphone app on iTunes. 'Follow Meindl on Twitter @AnthonyMeindl.