Will Smith actually said it. The secret to his success, was simply “deciding” that he wasn’t going to let anyone or anything stop him from having a career.
It sounds so simple. And in many ways, it is.
We often find living our creative lives (and the accomplishing of our goals) to be a haphazard experience. This is partly due to our mind’s many thoughts telling us we can’t have what we truly desire.
Our creating becomes compromised because instead of aligning ourselves with our powerful intentions, we instead get sidetracked by our thoughts that run counter to them.
Just because I have 70,000 thoughts a day, doesn’t mean most of them are real, beneficial, or supportive. In fact, most aren’t. And as we listen to the damaging noise in our left brains, we create unseen roadblocks on the paths we really want to be walking.
We neutralize our creative intentions by listening to the junk thoughts we tell ourselves.
“Just deciding” is an empowering way to change the dialogue in your head. Partly because it gives you a good kick in the ass to remind you what’s possible for you and that it’s up to you to get out there and start taking action.
But it’s also a confidence booster, because you begin to realize that once you decide, a sense of effortlessness and a sense of knowing follows. And the right agent you are meant to line up with (the person who’s really going to get you) is just around the corner. So you stop sweating the small stuff. You stop acting desperate. You stop having attachments. You let go.
So the real work is to become more mindful. Stop drinking the poison just because it’s offered to you by your lazy mind. The contrary thoughts you have about yourself are incompatible with the decision you made for yourself to “just decide.” So, ultimately, there’s no room for the two thoughts to co-exist.
So which do you want to think about? Which gives you more joy? Which makes you feel more empowered? More confident?
Our creative journeys aren’t just about what you are creating in three-dimensional space. They are really the journeys that take place within our heads.
So next time you hear yourself saying something damaging and unkind to yourself, tell yourself instead, “I just decided. And there’s really no room for you both. You gotta go.”
Or as Will Smith says, “In my mind, I’ve always been an A-list Hollywood superstar. You just didn’t know yet.”
Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, director, producer, and Artistic Director of Anthony Meindl's Actor Workshop (AMAW) in Los Angeles, where it was voted the Best Acting Studio in Los Angeles by Backstage in 2011 and 2012 (Best Scene Study and Best Cold Read). AMAW is also located in New York and Australia.
Meindl's first feature film, “Birds of a Feather,” won the Spirit of the Festival Award at the 2012 Honolulu Rainbow Film Festival, and he won Best Director at the Downtown Film Festival Los Angeles. He is a regular contributor to The Daily Love, Backstage, and various spirituality podcasts. He has been featured in ABC News, Daily Variety, LA Weekly, The Hollywood Reporter and the CW KTLA. He is also the author of the new best-selling book, “At Left Brain Turn Right,” which helps artists of all kinds unleash their creative genius within. Check out Meindl's free smartphone app on iTunes. 'Follow Meindl on Twitter @AnthonyMeindl.