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Stop Telling Yourself Lies About Your Career!

Stop Telling Yourself Lies About Your Career!

If only we could stop telling stories that contradicted our hearts, who would we be?

Amazing Adventurers. Dynamic Doers. Beautiful Bad-Asses. Courageous Creators.

But it’s hard because we’re invested in our stories.

And we give them so much credence because we tell them to ourselves all the time.

You know the ones: “The business is hard.” “It’s never going to happen for me.” “I’m too f***ed up.” “I don’t have the right reps.” “I have no reps.” “I’m talentless.” “I’ve been doing it for so long and it’s still not working.”

Thoughts like these that are on automatic pilot (and we have up to 85,000 of them a day!) – are not necessarily true just because we think them. We think them true simply because we repeatedly tell them to ourselves.

They are fiction, so we essentially tell ourselves fictional stories. And like bad fiction, they don’t make us feel good precisely because they contradict the feelings of the heart.

What if you told a true story? Tell a story from your heart.

We live in a culture that encourages and rewards neurosis. It’s cool and hip and funny to be scattered and chaotic and all over the place. It’s humorous to not know.

It’s attractive to be disconnected. It’s normal to be crazy.

Ummmm . . . No it’s not.

But when we listen to all these discordant thoughts in our head, we’re part of the general neurotic malaise that permeates our culture. But that’s not the true nature of man.

We become invested in these paradigms that are created through fictional storytelling and begin to assume they’re real. As we act out of these fictional paradigms we lose connection to the stories our hearts have been aching to weave for a long time.

My friend, Nicole, put it best. She said listening to these outdated paradigms is like living your life operating on a PC system, when your heart and your consciousness are actually a Mac.

You’ve got to reboot your operating system! Download new software. Throw away old files. Delete old programming that is holding you back and keeping you stuck in storytelling that never served you – and certainly doesn’t serve you today.

Simply ask yourself this instead, “What would my life be like if I got connected to what my heart wants?”

Now find the story that goes with that – and start telling it.

Because that’s a story worth telling. And living.

Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer, director, producer, and Artistic Director of Anthony Meindl's Actor Workshop (AMAW) in Los Angeles, where it was voted the Best Acting Studio in Los Angeles by Backstage in 2011 and 2012 (Best Scene Study and Best Cold Read). AMAW is also located in New York, London, Vancouver, and Australia.

Meindl's first feature film, “Birds of a Feather,” won the Spirit of the Festival Award at the 2012 Honolulu Rainbow Film Festival, and he won Best Director at the Downtown Film Festival Los Angeles. He is a regular contributor to The Daily Love, Backstage, and various spirituality podcasts. He has been featured in ABC News, Daily Variety, LA Weekly, The Hollywood Reporter and the CW KTLA. He is also the author of the new best-selling book, “At Left Brain Turn Right,” which helps artists of all kinds unleash their creative genius within. Check out Meindl's free smartphone app on iTunes. 'Follow Meindl on Twitter @AnthonyMeindl.

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