Do you know where the expression “Negative Nellie” comes from? The answer can be found all the way back at the beginning of the 20th century. It was a nickname given to a woman named Nell Ostrander, and—are you ready for this? She was an actor!
Apparently, Miss Ostrander was a stage performer who always predicted doom for every production she appeared in. The script could be brilliant, the cast could be talented, but none of that mattered. “Negative Nellie” always prophesied terrible reviews and an early death for the show.
[Editors’ Note: The previous paragraphs are completely fabricated and are not the root of “Negative Nellie; however, we believe we get the point SAM is planning to make here, so let’s see where this goes….]
There’s a lot of negative energy in the world these days, and it seems to hit creative types the hardest. A lot of my clients are moping around, worried about the future, wondering if there’s a point to any of this. Well, I can understand those feelings. But my advice to all of you, as Thanksgiving rapidly approaches, is to show some gratitude for the positive people in your life. Don’t be a Negative Nellie.
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Last year, a former client wrote me the most amazing email. She was someone I’d worked hard to take from rags to riches and, like most performers who hit big at a young age, she left me for a larger agency. The email acknowledged the chance I took signing her and all the milestones she achieved under my watch. Her gratitude was genuine, and it made me feel like a million bucks. The following week, I paid it forward by sending a similar email to the agent who trained me. And based on her response, I would say it made her day, too.
That’s the thing about gratitude: It makes others feel better, and a lot of that energy comes right back at you. In these times of uncertainty, you should make a list of all the people who gave you a helping hand during the year, then reach out and let them know how you feel.
And please don’t tell me you can’t think of anyone. Do you have an agent who didn’t do much for you? Well, there’s a good chance he tried but failed. At the very least, the guy probably got your name out there, and that could pay off down the road. Or how about a gifted teacher who helped you achieve a breakthrough in class? Write her! Or a favorite Backstage columnist who always makes you laugh while giving you terrific advice? (I may be anonymous, but it’s the thought that counts.)
Now, let’s look at the flip side. As the holiday season approaches, consider making a list of people you can help. It could be somebody specific, like a fellow actor, or it could be more general, like the homeless population. Just give someone a helping hand and I guarantee some positive vibes in return.
I realize this column has taken on a Tony Robbins vibe, but I believe that how you live your life has a direct effect on your ability to be a successful (and happy) actor. So don’t just read this column. Act on it! (And have a happy Thanksgiving!)
