One of the simplest and most effective ways to accomplish your goals is to rely on an accountability partner. Checking in with a buddy about your daily actions, your weekly accomplishments, your monthly roadblocks, and your yearly goals will keep you on track and actually help you generate bigger results quickly.
But not all accountability partnerships work. So, here are three tips to help you find an accountability partner that sticks.
1. Reach outside your inner circle. Try to partner with someone who is not a close friend, relative, roommate, or partner. You’ll see deeper benefits from your buddy relationship if the waters aren’t muddied.
Ideally, the foundation for this partnership should be that you both want to focus on your careers, and you’re seeking support from a neutral party. You’ll find that your buddy will evolve into a close friend naturally, which is an added bonus. But don’t assume your best friend is the ideal accountability partner.
So, think of three or four people you know, but who aren’t necessarily in your inner circle yet. You could ask a classmate, a former colleague, or even the friend of a friend to try out the buddy system with you.
2. Set a firm foundation. Identify what date and time you will connect. Decide who is responsible for initiating the call. Set ground rules about confidentiality, topics you’ll cover, and acceptable reasons to miss a call.
Also, share what you both want to gain from the partnership and how you can support one another. I know a lot of actors whose accountability calls quickly turn into therapy sessions, which is no fun for anyone. If you want to avoid this, be sure to set clear ground rules before your accountability calls begin. It’s easier to iron out those details before problems start.
Creating this foundation in the beginning will help you both get exactly what you need and know exactly where you stand in the relationship.
3. Keep your word. The buddy system only works if you work it. So, don’t try this at home if you’re not willing to commit. You’ll only get out of the relationship what you put in. And though it may feel like work, once you get your buddy system up and running, you’ll experience the incredible power of teamwork for yourself.
That means you must be honest about how well the partnership is working for you. There’s nothing worse than have a buddy who isn’t really into it. So, don’t feel bad if the day comes when it’s time for your partnership to come to a close. That’s a normal component to any accountability team. It works until it doesn’t—so don’t put the pressure on yourself to stick with something longer than you need to.
Even if finding a buddy feels like work and you just might need to try a couple partnerships out before your find your ideal match, it’s worth it. Once your team is in place, you’ll find that your confidence will grow, you’ll stay more focused, and you’ll develop great trust thanks to your accountability buddy.
Dallas Travers teaches the career and life skills often left out of traditional training programs. Her book, "The Tao of Show Business," garnered five awards including first prizes at The Hollywood Book Festival, the London Festival, and the National Indie Excellence Award. Through her workshops, Dallas helps thousands of actors increase their auditions, produce their own projects, secure representation, and book roles in film, television, and on Broadway. She is a certified life coach and entrepreneur with over a decade of experience implementing marketing and mindset strategies that work.
For more information about working with Dallas, visit www.dallastravers.com.